October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. I have mixed opinions about this month and I share more about that on the episode. I address the different types of losses that you can experience on this journey in this episode and address how grief can look different for everyone. I share 7 tips with you on navigating a loss.
1. Allow it.
This sounds easier than it is. Our brain is wired to avoid pain. Remind yourself that it is safe to allow this pain. The more we avoid the pain, the heavier it gets, it will exhaust us and distract us, and come knocking down.
2. Find some support.
Support is a huge piece of navigating a loss. Support looks different for everyone, so be sure to decide what feels right for you. You can go to therapy, work through this with a significant other, do coaching, church, friend or family member, or a support group.
3. Avoid judging yourself.
There is no perfect way to go through this. Don’t judge yourself in this process. We all process this differently. Trust yourself and how you are showing up.
4. Cut the comparison.
It is so easy to look at others and how they are processing things. Don’t compare yourself to them. Remember there is no rule book that says what they’re doing is right or wrong, or what you are doing is right or wrong.
5. Identify situations in your day to day that are not healthy for you right now and cut them out.
If you are identifying an activity or situation where it’s putting you in an uncomfortable situation, it’s ok to step back. You may be able to weave it back in over time but do what’s right for you.
6. Trust yourself in this process.
This is so important. You have your own back no matter what. Remind yourself of this along this process. Remind yourself that you know what to do. You have got this.
7. There is no end goal.
There is no place that you get to where you all of a sudden are just not going to experience grief ever agin. You will still feel the pain of that loss as time goes on, it just may lessen in intensity. Don’t let anyone confuse you to think that one day you will wake up and not feel that pain ever again.
I hope you find these helpful! I’d love to hear if any of these tips helped you. Send me a DM on Instagram (@sarahbrandell) to let me know.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:
- Grief
- Loss and the different types of losses
- 7 tips to help you through the loss process
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:
- Check out episode 2 to hear more about allowing emotions on your TTC journey.
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MORE ABOUT THE PATH TO MOTHERHOOD PODCAST:
Welcome to The Path to Motherhood Podcast. I’m your host Sarah Brandell and I’m a fertility life coach, wife, and a mother on a mission to help you manage your mind and emotions around fertility and trying to conceive. I know where you are because I’ve been there. I have been through the long journey to motherhood, the waiting, the appointments, the testing, the unanswered questions, the medications, the shots and I am ready to help.
This podcast is for you if you are ready to learn how to navigate your path to motherhood authentically while honoring the emotions but also cultivating some hope. Join us each Monday as we walk through how to use the power of coaching to not only feel better along the way but also feel like you have an identity out of just trying to conceive.
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